Since I’ve passed the halfway mark in my pregnancy at 20 weeks, I’ve decided to tell the boss about it. He was like, whoa, you were pregnant all these days!? I didn’t even notice! Well sir, that’s that I’ve not been falling ill and absent due to this pregnancy and have been going through my duties like a normal, non-pregnant lady so let’s talk about my maternity leave in October.
I don’t know about the maternity leave from where you are but in my company, the ladies are eligible for 90 days, ridiculously split into:
- 45 days of paid leave
- 45 days of unpaid leave
Now there’s something about the word “unpaid” that doesn’t sound right. Since I have 30 days of paid vacation leave every year and I did NOT go for vacation last year, I am eligible for 60 days of paid vacation leave by the time I deliver the baby in October.
So I proposed: 45 days of standard paid maternity leave PLUS 45 days of paid leave taken from my 60 days. Total of 90 short days with my new babe. I am sure I’d be heartbroken and emotional once I go back to work!
Then the boss said.
“You mean to say you’d be gone for THREE whole months!?”
To which I wanted to ask him back: “Do you know how little and helpless an infant is even at three months after birth?”
Boss: “Coz you know, if I could do away without a person for three months, it usually means I could do away without him/her forever.”
But hey – I am surprised how many people in the company disappear for 3 months to go back to their home countries to get married and go for honeymoon. And it’s perfectly ok.
Since when did taking care of a new baby less important than, uhm, making babies!?
After much discussion though, he decided to give me my 90 days and even helped explain to the HR. He was in a friendly mood when he broke the news about my ‘vacation’. But like any other new moms (or mom-again to be), it’s a tricky situation. What defense do I have if he decides to ditch me before my ‘vacation’ ends? Believe me, this has happened to so many women, not just here!
If you are a working mom, tell me, how many days of maternity leave did you have?