“Can I take Pristine to the movies with Jane* on Tuesday?”
* not the real name of Pristine’s friend
I received that SMS from Pristine’s friend’s mom. That time school was out so we’re making ways to keep the girls from getting bored at home. Jane came to our place a couple of times (alone) and Pristine had been to Jane’s apartment but my mother was there with her. Jane lives in a place with a pool in the backyard. And a huge dog. Surely you can’t blame me being overprotective, no? Our neighbors come to our apartment and play with Pristine and I am fine with that. However, when she gets invited to the neighbor’s place, someone has to come with her, either me of my mother. Mostly my mother who takes care of her after school.
The whole going out to the movies is a new thing for me.
I’ve asked other moms I know through this blog and Twitter and some of them said “Yes”, majority said “No”. My first instinctive reaction was to say “No, Pristine can’t go to the movies without me or her father with her” but I played around with my reply until I had no other way but to say what I really wanted to say in the first place. I don’t know if Pristine’s friend’s mom was offended, I hope she’s not and she’ll look at it from a different perspective or put herself in my shoes. Would she trust me to take her daughter out without her?
In any case, I won’t invite other kids to my care without their parents because whatever happens I don’t want to be in trouble (even if it wasn’t my fault).
Pristine is by the way 7 years old. If you are a mom, would you allow your son/daughter to go to the movies alone with his/her friend & their families?