**Warning: May contain spoilers for the Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows movie**
This won’t be a review of the latest Harry Potter film that we saw last Friday as many of my friends have not seen it yet and I don’t want to ruin it for them. And most of them haven’t read the book too so I guess I’ll have them spend money to watch the movie just like I did.
Someone died in the movie and the death scene in the book that spanned at least a few pages was condensed into only a few movie minutes but it was still intense – and my daughter sitting beside me started sobbing, however, quietly. She did not know or expect, after all that someone will die. My mother who was with us in the movie house started saying, “C’mon now, it’s just a movie, hush, hush, don’t cry…. There, there, stop now.”
Pristine was trying to wipe her tears and choked on her misery.
I scooped her up from her seat and sat her in my lap – as to keep distance from my mother. I told her it’s ok to cry, to let out her emotions. Just cry it out. And boy she did, my shirt sleeve was wet before the movie credit rolled in.
Children (in some cultures or maybe only in my family?) are always asked to stop crying if they are sad when watching sad movies. But why? Growing up, I’ve always muffled my cries because of the ït’s just a movie” comment. But now, as a parent myself, I wonder, what is wrong with crying? I’ve decided when I become a parent, I won’t prevent or stop my child/children from crying when they are sad. I won’t suppress or let them suppress their emotions inside.
How about you, what do you when children sob during sad movies? Do you stop them or hand them the tissue (or shirt sleeve) and give them a big hug?