I‘d like to thank everyone who jumped in and commented, enlightened, helped me decide what to do with a colleague in jail. I appreciate that you took the time and shared your thoughts, I’m so blessed to have you all.
I have replied to individual comments through email but I thought, I’d like to share what I have decided here.
In the end, I did give money, small amount however and put it in the envelope. Someone in the office collected it and would be buying food and telephone cards for our jailed colleague. But to be honest, although I gave financial help, it wasn’t from my heart. It’s the first time that I’m giving something without emotions attached to it – and though I really like to make it ok, I’m not good at faking it. It was all out of pressure from people around me – which really doesn’t feel nice. I felt bad but I know I would’ve felt worse if I hadn’t given anything.
The comments on the post were amazing. Some were mentioning to be compassionate as a Christian, to think that I’m just a human too and capable of making mistakes, to forgive, give money and go on with my life. On the other hand, one commentor from Dubai said,
he (jailed colleague) is being taken care of better than some of this city’s construction workers and at least he doesn’t have to toil for 10 hours before being allowed to eat!!
It’s an eye opener because it’s so true. There are lots and lots of people needing help, I don’t even need to look far, they are there in the streets, digging and toiling under the heat of the sun, working for more than 12 hours and no one cares if they have a decent food to eat at the end of the day.
I won’t make this post longer than it is. Bottom line, I pitched in, most of my colleagues did (not all!) and I hope jail time will serve as a lesson for him, to rethink and reassess his life and the people he hurt.