As a full time working mother, the time I spend with Pristine at home is very limited so as much as possible, I would like to spend that time wisely and with quality. I don’t want to spend it on scoldings, what kind of parent would want to do that all the time. I would like to spend my evenings with her reading, baking together in the kitchen or playing happily.
Pristine’s really been a good child so far. Heck, we never passed that infamous “terrible two’s” stage and she never munched on electric wires as a baby either. She listens, she follows and she never talks back (she does write letters expressing her opinions, though). We never, almost never raise our voices on her. That’s how blessed we are. But as she ages, we’re finding ourselves meeting some parenting obstacles. Of course, this just shows that there is no really perfect person or child and that parenting is not all bed of roses.
School started last week. She loves going to school and have been getting really good grades and her teachers have nothing but good things to say about her performance in class. Since last week, she’s brought home assignments and we expect her to do it even when we’re not there (the husband and I are working parents and she’s left with my mom at home). I go home at 6:30 pm, cook dinner, check up on her, etc.
Since last week, everyday, she’s only doing her homework only AFTER I asked her to. Mind you, it’s just a one page homework. Last night, I was really ticked off.
My parents never had to nag me about my homework when I was in school. I’d do it diligently right after I come home , right BEFORE anyone asks me to or before I do any sort of play and small household chores I was assigned to. I know it’s not fair to measure my daughter using the yardstick of my youth but I also know that school assignments are her own responsibility. That she can’t go far in life if she waits around – waits around to be told to do something, that is.
But mom, once I do it, I can do it very, very quickly!
I was furious. It’s true, once she tackles things, she does it well and fast. But as a mom who wants the best for her, I am frustrated. Being able to do it well and very quickly is meaningless UNTIL you initiate action. That crucial first step is very important. How can I ever drill this thought in her young mind?
Moms out there, how do you deal with children slacking with homework?